Your sexual prowess is a process. So, if you are feeling like there’s something you are getting wrong, it’s the fact that you think becoming better at sex is a one-off arrangement. No, that’s not true. There’s more to sex than it is a one-time thing. You need to follow some processes, learn and unlearn some facts and myths, if need be, and be willing to put in the work. Depending on the circumstances behind your first sexual experience, it is possible that you might have gotten scared and anxious about how it would go.
The first time is mostly filled with anxiety and flops. If you and your partner are both first-timers, it gets worse. However, it is worth noting that the relationship between anxiety and your sexual performance is mostly felt during the first few months of your starting to have sex. The more sex you have, the better you get at it. It becomes easy for you to get the hang of it easily and become less anxious. It would interest you to note that your favourite porn star started the same way as you, so there have been times when they got anxious, especially when popping their first cherry. But now, when you watch their porn videos, you can’t help but wonder what changed.
Here are some of those things that changed. Below are some tips that can help you get rid of your anxiety.
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Take a deep breath:
If it’s your first time having sex, or you are just about to have sex, and you feel stressed out, take a chill pill. It happens to the best of us, and it’s normal for you to freak out. It’s just sex, and there’s nothing more to it. So, take your time to reflect on why you want to have sex and allow that to guide you. Sex should be enjoyed, so don’t allow it to torment you. If you feel you aren’t ready just yet, take a few hours off to think about it again and be sure it’s what you want. The truth is, you’ll always be anxious if it’s your first time.
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Learn from porn videos:
Porn videos have ways of helping you get your sexual confidence. If you are in a relationship, and you still find it somewhat difficult to have sex with your partner or are still afraid of having sex, you might want to learn something from porn videos. Seeing others have sex without feeling guilty or anxious could be a good way to get out of your shell.
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Masturbate when necessary:
Masturbation has proven to be one of the most effective means of relieving yourself of stress. If you are stressed out, you will not enjoy sex, so before having sex, ensure you masturbate to prepare yourself for what is to come, then explore accordingly.